This week I’m bringing my friend Susan Bratton back to the show. Susan is a world-class expert in ageless intimacy. I just had to have her back because we had so much fun, and there are so many concepts we wanted to continue to explore together. Susan will reveal some of her top secrets for boosting libido and sexual health. Susan shares some surprising reasons you may struggle with libido and shares some simple biohacks you can use to boost your sexual health.
More about Susan Bratton:
Susan Bratton, Intimacy Wellness Expert, is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long.
Best-selling author and publisher of lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed Video Collection, Hormone Balancing, The Pump Guide and Thrust In Time as a small selection of her 34 books and program.
You can find The Susan Bratton Show on YouTube at BetterLover.com, her more personal posts @susanbratton on Instagram, and her new sexual vitality supplements, Flow, Boost, Desire and Drive in the links below!
- Episode 287 with Susan Bratton
- Episode 220 with Dr. Harry Adelson
- Episode 211 with Dr. Amy Killen
- Susan's Hormone Balancing guide
- Susan's Vaginal Restoration Revealed
- Susan's FLOW Supplement
- Susan's TRIO of supplements
- CytoDetox: total detoxification support where it matters most – at the cellular level.
- Dr. Pompa's Beyond Fasting – now released!
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Dr. Pompa:
Oh, boy, Susan Bratton, we had her on talking about sexual vitality on a past show. This topic, libido, wait until you see the things that she shows. You’ll see me get embarrassed at least one time in this show. I’m going to say, this show is directed at people that have libido issues, mostly related to health issues, but this show is for everybody.
I’m telling you, the tips that she gives, the links to products, the links to the biohacks that work for this condition, there are a lot in this show. That means there’s a lot of answers. You’ll see; you’re going to want your spouse to watch this show with you. You might want to watch it with he or her first or maybe yourself first before you share it, but no, I think that this is going to be a show that you’ll probably share more than most. Check it out.
Ashley Smith:
Hello, everyone. Welcome to Cellular Healing TV. I’m Ashley Smith. Today, we welcome back the lovely Susan Bratton, who you may remember from “Episode 287.” Susan is a world-class expert in ageless intimacy. We just had to have her back because we had so much fun and there are so many concepts we wanted to continue to explore together.
Susan is an expert in detoxing for sexual vitality, supporting your libido with nutrients and botanicals, and sexual biohacking. This will be nothing short of lively and fun. Let’s get started and welcome Susan Bratton, and of course, Dr. Pompa to the show. Welcome both of you.
Susan Bratton:
Greetings, it is very nice to see you and to be with you again.
Dr. Pompa:
Oh, she is back, folks. That’s not just a sunset coming over her head. That’s just the way she is every day, trust me. Oh, gosh, I can’t wait for this episode. We had to have you back after the last one. We’ll put the link here to the last show where we got dicey with the whole sexual vitality conversation. I think some of that will shock you.
Today’s conversation is specifically about what we promised, libido. This is a huge problem. My audience is people who are looking to get their health back. I have a lot of health-challenged people that follow me. I would say a huge percentage of them, hey, libido is gone.
Okay, I talk a lot about getting to the upstream issue, but the question I get often, Susan, is okay, great, but what can I do in the meantime? As we know, you’re the expert, or should I call you the sexpert, which you don’t like that; you’re far beyond that; you’re way more than that. As you know, this can be disruptive to relationships.
I think this show’s really important because if we can give you some breakthroughs—which Susan has some really amazing stuff. This is cutting-edge stuff, stuff that you may have heard about she’ll take you to the next level on it, and I promise you, stuff you probably haven’t. Okay, what is libido because maybe it’s not what we think, Susan?
Susan Bratton:
Thanks, Dr. Pompa, so much again for having me. I really want to talk about libido and define it because I like to define it as a comparison to other things. I like to think about there being a stack of your human experience. One thing is your libido, then there’s your desire, and then there’s arousal.
Libido is your life force; it’s your lust for life; it’s what powers your creativity; it’s what powers your enthusiasm. It also powers your appetite for your sexuality. When you’re health challenged, which we all are at various times, and some of us more than others, we find that diminishes our libido because our body is being this little mitochondrial batteries. Our batteries on low so it doesn’t have enough bandwidth, it doesn’t have enough juice to also feel like it wants to be intimate.
I know that people who are health challenged carry a lot of guilty feelings, a lot of shame because they feel like, I should want my partner, I should want sex, I wish I wanted to have sex, but I don’t. I feel bad like I’m letting them down. We end up getting depressed and beating ourselves for it or feeling anxious because we know we’re letting our partner down.
At the end of the day, everybody wants to feel love, connection, touch, holding, sensuality. One of the things that I can tell you is that when you don’t feel well, often, what’s happened is you’re starting to beat yourself up because you’re not having “sex,” like penis in vagina intercourse. When you think about sex as that, and that’s the biggest goal, you have to pull yourself back and say, well, I might not be—I might not desire that right now, but I might desire being held, or holding my partner, a full body massage, a nice head rub, maybe just some erotic pleasuring with no goal in mind.
Dr. Pompa:
It takes the pressure off if there’s no goal in mind. It takes the pressure off and it may lead to arousal, possibly.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, and you said that beautifully, Dan, because if you think about libido, libido is how your body is feeling and whether or not you’re feeling “horny,” you’re feeling “frisky,” you’ve got a little lust, you want sex. That’s the body. That’s a measure of your health. That includes your gut biome, and your hormones, and the things we talked about a lot on the last show.
Dr. Pompa:
Even let me speak from now a sick person who is now healthy. I can tell you that what you’re saying there is truth to because I would say when you’re sick, you’re focused on yourself. There were times that once I got in the motion, then it would be much better. Now, okay, so even now as a healthy person, I can tell you that there’s many times where it’s the last—it’s not on mind. I’m busy, this and that. Once some of the things that you mention start, then okay, I didn’t even realize that I was actually wanting to do this. Here I am.
You’re right. You can’t just all of a sudden want sex. My wife reminds me that sex starts in the kitchen. I still don’t understand what that means, man. It’s never happened yet in the kitchen. That’s me. It doesn’t start there. I know what she means by that; I’m just playing. Anyway, to your point, I think that this is—you have to start with some of those things that you’re mentioning.
Susan Bratton:
You know you’re feeling better, you know you’re getting better, you know your healing is working when you’re starting to have little fantasies, or you’re even thinking about sexuality, you even thinking about being held, and touched, and interacting. Those are all ways you can notice that you’re coming back to health. You’ve got libido; that’s your body. Then you’ve got desire.
Desire is really the headspace. That is, I’m not upset with my partner, or I am, I like them, I feel good about myself, I feel like a sexual person. Because many people have body image issues or they’ve suffered surgeries of various kinds that make them feel less desirable. There’s desire, which is another component of it, and that’s your headspace.
Arousal is what you were really taking about, Dr. Pompa, which is you didn’t know you were in the mood until you started down the path. That’s why when you have an understanding of the difference between the masculine and feminine, very important, the masculine is generally testosterone dominant; the female is generally estrogen forward. He is more often ready to go and he is naturally more goal-oriented and looking at the final sex, penis in vagina intercourse.
Estrogen, it has its eye on everything. It’s not ready. It’s not the initiator; it’s the responder, it’s the receiver. Estrogen wants testosterone to sweep her away into pleasure. She doesn’t want the pressure and the performance anxiety of “guaranteeing” it will lead to sex.
The solution for couples who have any kind of libido mismatch where they don’t both want it about the same, which is 99.9% of all people, is people are—somebody wants and somebody’s like, I don’t know, maybe if you talk me into it. Can we start with a foot rub? I think for the large swath, you can generalize to say that the masculine is often more ready to go than the feminine. She needs to be warmed up, to be held, to be emotionally connected, to make sure everything is set and good, and she can relax. She wants to—
Dr. Pompa:
Gosh, such work you women are.
Susan Bratton:
It’s not work. See, it’s joy; it’s pleasure.
Dr. Pompa:
I’m joking. Right now, the women are typing their hate mail to me. I’m just laughing. I am sitting here with a smile on my face because I’m thinking, oh my gosh, men, we’re like—it’s almost embarrassing actually. It’s like let’s just get right after it. It’s like we’re looking to that end goal. Here you are describing estrogen wanting this process and leading me. Us men are going, oh my God. All right, we have to change that obviously a little bit.
Susan Bratton:
One thing I’ve found is that when men understand what women need, they want to give it to her. What they want is to give her incredible pleasure. They actually don’t really feel like it’s work, but women are afraid to ask for it. Part of what I like to do is I like to let women know that it’s okay to ask for what you need because your arousal pattern is much slower than his.
The advice that I give men is here’s what she needs from you. Number One, good grooming. Nobody likes a dirty bird. Number Two, emotional connection and presence.
Dr. Pompa:
Men, did you hear that? Good grooming, okay, yeah. Should we define that a little bit better because every man is like, what do you mean? I shower. Does there need to be a little more definition about that? What do you mean?
Susan Bratton:
I have so many things I want to talk about that I’ll leave your grooming conditions up to you as an individual. Good grooming, emotional connections, and presence, not going for a goal, not trying to make me do, make me have a good experience, but being with me in the experience. Then slowing down, slowing yourself down. Throttle yourself back, boys, and drop into a connection with your women that is co-creation of pleasure. Stop thinking about the endgame. You’ll net more sex when you give up your goal.
That’s the thing that for many men when they say, my wife, she went through the menopause and she doesn’t want sex anymore. I’m like, well, I’ve got to tell you the truth. Your wife is using her menopause as an excuse for not wanting to have sex with you anymore because it wasn’t good enough for her to fight for her sex life. Let me teach you a few skills where you can actually get your wife to want you for sex again and maybe even initiate it.
Dr. Pompa:
The men that just heard that are like—the men are just going now be like, ah-ha, see it’s not a real excuse anymore, but there is another side to that; there was another side to that.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, but that’s a separate show too because I really want to get into sexual biohacking. What happens as you age? Because if you’re listening or watching this interview with Dan and I, you care about your sexuality. You’re one of those people who didn’t give it up. You actually want—
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, and you should. By the way, they—
Susan Bratton:
You want to know.
Dr. Pompa:
Absolutely, this affects your health. Orgasms actually make you hormonally healthier. Relationships, touch, makes you more hormonally healthier. All of this applies to your health, but yet, your health applies to this topic. I want to let you go on, but I do want to remind you that many people watching this, they’re sick; they’re toxic; they have hormone challenges. That alone can affect their libido. Is this still going to all work?
Susan Bratton:
I think that hormones get too much credit for their contribution to people’s libido.
Dr. Pompa:
All right, good.
Susan Bratton:
If you are thinking in your mind, I’m sick, and my hormones are whacked, and that’s why I don’t want sex, I can tell you that’s not actually the reason.
Dr. Pompa:
All right, great. That’s what I was hoping you would say. I want everyone to hear that because I knew that people were thinking that. Let’s put that behind us.
Susan Bratton:
What if it’s not your hormones? What else could it be? Let’s explore.
Dr. Pompa:
That’s right. All right, good, this is good. We’re just heading in the right direction. Okay, what do we do?
Susan Bratton:
The very first thing that you do is remember what I just said, which was your libido is your health. It’s two sides of the same coin. You’re working on your health. The better you feel, the more turned on—the more you’re going to want sex. That’s one thing. Notice how as you get better, you feel more sexy. Number One, witness your healing.
Number Two, make sure that there’s nothing between you and your partner or yourself that’s holding you back from your desire. Check in on that. Number Three, make sure that you’re not rushing yourself and that you’re actually thinking about your sex life as co-creation of sensual pleasure, not penis in vagina intercourse, because that’s too big of goal, especially when you don’t feel well. Baby steps, this is about baby steps. Get a foot rub; that’s sex, too.
Dr. Pompa:
Number Two, though, there’s maybe some complicating factors there, making sure there’s nothing between you and your spouse. That can be a brick wall that’s built and you don’t even acknowledge anymore. That right there could be the dang sticking point. What do you say to that? Any advice around that one?
Susan Bratton:
What I think is important for you as you’re listening to Dr. Pompa and I on this particular conversation is for you to just be open right now and taking in everything that we’re saying and looking for the places in your own life where you see the little warning flags so that you can know, oh, okay, actually I love my husband. I just don’t feel that well, but actually, I did notice that I—oh, yeah, if we just slowed down. Oh, I’ve got this pain. She just told me what I could do to fix that. We’re going to get into that next.
Then I’m going to tell you about what supplementation supports libido and why because it also isn’t what you think, just like hormones aren’t the reason why your libido is crap. They’re a very small part of it. Here’s where they are the part of it. Let’s just discuss that for a second because I want to go into what goes wrong with the female body, and what goes wrong with the male body, and how you can use sexual biohacking to solve those problems.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, that’s where we want to go.
Susan Bratton:
Let’s do ladies first shall we, Dan?
Dr. Pompa:
Yep.
Susan Bratton:
Okay, the very first thing is that since you’ve been thinking about hormones, make sure that if you are doing hormone—bioidentical hormone replacement therapy, you consider that if you have low orgasmic response, like you’re not feeling your orgasms as well as you used to, or you’re struggling to achieve a climax, that testosterone cream compounded in shea butter rubbed on the clitoral structure, on your vulva, on the clitoral structure, works very well to improve the loss of sensation that you get as you age. Another thing that works for well for that are what are called O-Shots or orgasm shots, which are PRP, platelet-rich plasma, spun down, and put into the clitoral structure, which is a spongy structure because it’s full of erectile tissue. That can actually rebuild your tissue.
It can help with incontinence and with laxity because it can improve the musculature in the pelvic bowl, so PRP. Then if you’re super rich and you want to just throw as much as you can at your yoni, yoni being another word for the female genitals, a sweet world, Y-O-N-I, you can do stem cells. If you put some me mesenchymal stem cells in your clitoral structure, like go for it, girl.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, those can come out of your own hip.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, you can get them out of your iliac crest.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, the PRP is a simple treatment. They just take your blood, spin it down. What’s left is the PRP in that injection. It sounds worse than it is. I know people that have had it down. My wife has not, but—
Susan Bratton:
I’ve had it four times.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, okay, yeah, exactly. I’ve interviewed Harry Adelson on the show that he does that in his clinic.
Susan Bratton:
His girlfriend.
Dr. Pompa:
We can put the link to the show.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, with Amy, Dr. Engleman does it.
Dr. Pompa:
Dr. Amy Killen, right, who we’ve interviewed. Yeah, we’ll link those shows. It is a simple procedure, but effective would you say?
Susan Bratton:
Super effective. I had my first O-Shot when I was 54. I didn’t notice that much, but I was also dealing with a lot of—and here’s the other issue. I’m advancing the conversation here. Vaginal atrophy, laxity, what happens as we age is that we get sarcopenia, muscle and tissue loss. Our growth hormone declines with all the rest of our hormones and so we’re not holding onto the tissue we used to have.
That’s why you can work out harder and you don’t get any bigger. It’s the same thing with the tissue in the genital area, both for the masculine and feminine. You lose tissue, and you lose sensation, and you also have diminished blood flow. When you have diminished blood flow, which we’re going to talk about with supplements, blood flow is very important to keep your vasodilation nitric oxide fuel tanked up. I’m going to talk a lot about why. That’s been the missing link for your pleasure and lubrication and for your tightness in that musculature.
Dr. Pompa:
You did that very aggressively, I might add, that tightness.
Susan Bratton:
Right, because when you can’t get a good grip on a penis with your vaginal tissue, you can’t experience the—
Dr. Pompa:
When you said grip on it, it was the hands. Then us men went, oh my God. Okay, but it was the vaginal—okay, got it.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, you’ve got that nice grip on his penis. That gives you more orgasmic pleasure for orgasm from intercourse. When women don’t have the ability to have those nice strong contractions and that grip, when it’s just—when their vagina is literally flaccid or lax, it’s from the tissue in the vagina, which is called vaginal mucosa, it actually begins to shrink just like your bicep shrinks when you stop going to the gym. Your tissue shrinks as you age, as blood flow declines, as your hormones decline.
Dr. Pompa:
That sucks.
Susan Bratton:
What happens is your vagina becomes more open, so you get a big, floppy patty. It’s the worst. Your male body partner, as he ages, his penis starts to shrink. He’s atrophying in the tissues getting smaller. He’s getting a smaller—
Dr. Pompa:
Oh my God, is there good news right now? You’ve got to bring us good news.
Susan Bratton:
No, this is the stinkiest part of sexual aging is you’ve—now, you’re bigger and he’s smaller. You can’t feel a darn thing, which is why, you want to get the grip back.
Dr. Pompa:
Gosh, oh man.
Susan Bratton:
You can.
Dr. Pompa:
My friend Ben Greenfield has had his penis injected several times. The point I’m making is the PRP and the stem cells goes the other way as well.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, I’m going to talk about penises in just a second. I’ve got some things to show you.
Dr. Pompa:
I just couldn’t help it.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, please, let’s talk about penises as much as you want. I’m a penis expert.
Dr. Pompa:
Not yet because you have to show the infrared treatment, which you’re going to talk about, which is in your hand.
Susan Bratton:
That is what I’m doing right now. We’re not going to penises yet.
Dr. Pompa:
It looks like we are, but we’re not.
Susan Bratton:
This is vFit. You can get this at vFit—it’s at joylux.com. It’s red light therapy. It vibrates; you can hear the vibration. It’s warm. It’s warming.
Dr. Pompa:
It’s sounding a little sexual, but it’s truly a treatment, I promise you.
Susan Bratton:
No, this is a do it yourself, at home, FDA certified medical device for vaginal rejuvenation. Before the vFit, you had to go get your vaginal mucosa lasered or burned with RF devices to regenerate the mucosal tissue that’s thinning with age. Now, I love this product because the vFit is—you don’t have to go to an office; you don’t have to get burned; you don’t have to get wounded.
This is a non-wounding vaginal restoration device. It rebuilds the collagen with the heat. It stimulates the vaginal mucosal mitochondria with the red light. The vibration helps with the—it’s basically doing Kegels for you to increase the pelvic muscle in there.
Dr. Pompa:
Do we have a link that we can put up?
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, I’ll give you one. I actually have a link where—because I’m a spokesperson for them because I love them so much. I chased them down for over a year. I was like, I want to tell the world about this product. They gave me a little special page where you get a free bottle of their vaginal replenishment product that goes with it, so it saves you some money.
Dr. Pompa:
My only fear, and I’ll speak this for all the men watching is, that thing’s glowing, it’s vibrating, it’s all this. Guys, they may not even need us anymore. Look at this thing. How do we compete? You know I’m joking.
Susan Bratton:
This doesn’t give you orgasms.
Dr. Pompa:
No, I’m joking. It just was so magical and it was glowing. Here we are. It’s like all of a sudden, us men were feeling inferior to this. No, I get it. It’s a device for—
Susan Bratton:
You want to buy this for your wife or girlfriend as a gift because when she uses this for eight weeks every other day, she’s going to have the most luscious vaginal mucosa. She’s going to be turned on and desire sex in a way she hasn’t for a while because it gets everything going again. It turns back the clock, which is what sexual biohacking is supposed to do. It’s supposed to make you feel 35 instead of 55, or 65, or 75. That’s what I love about this. You don’t have to go get a treatment; you can do this at home. This is my favorite product of the year.
Dr. Pompa:
Does it come with the actual protocol? Do you have to do it every day, how long?
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, every other day. It’s a 12-minute protocol every other day for eight weeks. Then you can go on maintenance mode or you can see how you do.
A lot of women get it—my girlfriend got it. She did it every day, full-on, right out of the box because she’s like, I can take it. She’s like, “That thing hurt. I did a little bit too much. I was a little sensitive from that.”
I was like, “Well, did you follow the directions?” She said, “No.” Follow the directions. Listen to your mother. This works. Be careful. It’s an FDA approved device.
I think it’s like $500. It’s affordable. One laser treatment sets you back $1,500 because you’ve got to go for a series.
That I think is important. Then the other thing that I think is also important is just making sure that you are self-pleasuring if you don’t feel well, whenever you feel well, self-pleasuring, and using something that is going to stimulate not just the external vulva and clitoral structure that’s showing, but is going to go inside the vagina area. Because what happens for a lot of women is—well, a girlfriend of mine just emailed me.
She said, “I feel like my vaginal opening is almost fused shut. I have a new boyfriend. Lubrication is not my issue; it’s accommodation. What do I do?” For a lot of women, they let it go so long that they have to then do a lot of remediation where it’s much better if you’re using a product that is—this particular product from Fun Factory is a thruster.
Dr. Pompa:
This is the place in the show where I get a little embarrassed. Okay, go ahead, just announcing it.
Susan Bratton:
Oh, this is self-care. This is sexual self-care. Please don’t be embarrassed or am I embarrassing you?
Dr. Pompa:
No, you’re fine. Yeah, when the device started shacking, you know, anyway.
Susan Bratton:
This is a little rocker magnet. It actually does a very nice thrusting that is very good intravaginally. You want to keep that vaginal mucosa and the insides of the clitoral, and urethral, and perineal structures of erectile tissues stimulated. If you’re only focused on an external stimulation, you’re missing 95% of what keeps you healthy, young, feel good, orgasmic intensity, so having some kind of a g-area, or urethral sponge, or a pulsator of some kind. These are from Fun Factory. They make non-toxic toys. You want to be very careful not to buy—
Dr. Pompa:
No, you took one of my questions right there. I was going to nail you with that like, there could be a toxic component to that.
Susan Bratton:
Zero toxins, these are super high quality, Fun Factory. When I get to the men’s products, I’m going to show you a few super high-quality, non-toxic men’s products that are also very good.
Dr. Pompa:
Told you this would be a fun show, folks, and informative, and healing.
Susan Bratton:
Yes, we’re responsible for our own bodies and keeping them young. We talked about the PRP; we talked about the vFit; we talked about the Fun Factory thrusters, pulsators, and g-spotters. Those are all really good things. We talked about the testosterone cream. Then the other thing that I think is really important is getting enough good quality fats in your system.
Dr. Pompa:
I preach a lot of that; that’s for sure.
Susan Bratton:
I know you do. That comment is not only welcomed on your show but understood. I don’t need to go into great detail on it, but having both cod liver oil if you can get the kind with the flavored strawberry or orange or what have you, a big scoop of that.
Dr. Pompa:
I’m a big fan of just eating cod liver. You can buy them online at different things, honestly, because a lot of the cod liver oil is rancid. Anyway, yeah, so fats.
Susan Bratton:
Yep, healthy fats, including vitamin E, mixed tocopherols are very important as well in combination with the DHA, and the EPA, and those kinds of things. The fats really help keep everything lubricated, so does hyaluronic acid. That’s also very good for lubrication. Which women find that as they age, their—one of the reasons their vaginal mucosa becomes delicate, fragile, difficult, painful sex, it’s not always lack of estrogen. That is a contributing factor, but often for women who they’re managing their estrogen and they’re still having vaginal pain with sex, just up your fats and your nitric oxide, which I’ll talk about in a bit.
Your vagina doesn’t have glands that lubricate. The way your vagina gets lubricated is through the seepage from your blood plasma. Your body recruits the fluid from your blood plasma. It comes through all the epithelial layers—the endothelial layers of your vaginal mucosa and seeps into the wall. That’s where your lubrication comes from.
You have to be hydrated, and have a lot of healthy fats, and have good vasodilation blood flow. That’s also what keeps your pelvic musculature in good shape and reduces urinary tract infections and bladder infections. Women who have chronic UTIs, they’re often low in nitric oxide. It’s very simple stuff that the doctors generally don’t tell you about. That’s the female.
Now, the male, he’s shriveling. He’s got shrinkage. This is his problem. His second problem is that he is having diminished blow flow due to atherosclerosis. His blood vessels are lined with fats from eating too much barbeque and bad fats all his life. His blood vessels are lined with bad fats that then become calcified. They make his blood vessels brittle.
He can’t pump the blood where he needs it. It might be to his brain during work, his stomach after lunch, and his genitals during lovemaking. If he can’t move the blood around, if his vasodilation is impacted, the first place your body says, I need to protect the heart and the brain, you’re not going to get anything down below the belt. As soon as he begins to exhibit loss of size, as soon as he sees that he’s not as large as he was in his youth, as soon as he sees any trouble achieving or maintaining an erection, if he goes soft, or he can’t quite get as hard as he used to, that’s most likely the blood vessel issue, the atherosclerosis.
The treatment I recommend, and this is a treatment you go get done, is GAINSWave, which is a sound healing that actually blasts the plaque off the penile arteries and stimulates new tissue growth. I like to stack it because we’re biohacking. I like to stack it with P-Shots, which is the man’s equivalent of the O-Shot is the P-Shot, PRP into the penile tissue to stimulate new growth. It increases and regains sensitivity, it regains erectile function, and it restores tissue.
There’s a third piece to the stack that I think is not only vital, but if we’re talking about a guy who can’t afford to go get GAINSWave treatments and a P-Shot, I call this the “poor man’s GAINSWave P-Shot.” That is a vacuum erection device. A Vacuum erection device, this is a unit that is—has a handheld little pump. It attaches to cylinders. Depending on the man’s size, he gets a cylinder. They go up quite large.
The particular product that I like is called the Whooper. It’s the only one I recommend because it has this extra-large cylinder. This wraps around his penis. The penis goes in here. He pumps the pump.
Dr. Pompa:
I was wrong; this is the part of the show where I get embarrassed. It really does pull the blood in and it can fix the problem. To your point, this is another way of doing it without doing the GAINSWave.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, well, I like it with the GAINSWave. In best of all worlds, GAINSWave, P-Shot, Whooper.
Dr. Pompa:
Got it.
Susan Bratton:
What’s nice about this is the penis and the testicles go into this larger one. That’s why it’s so big.
Dr. Pompa:
Oh, my God.
Susan Bratton:
This restores length and this restores girth. What happens is, if you’re having—if you have severe erectile dysfunction and you can’t—the most common type of erectile dysfunction is called a venous leak. That’s where you can get the blood in, but you can’t trap it in. Your blood vessels are so brittle that they’re supposed to trap the blood in to hold the erection, but they can’t do it anymore.
What you can do with the penis pump while you’re repairing the damage with the pumping, every other day you pump for ten minutes, take a break, ten minutes, and you’re done. My husband pumps while I use my vFit. We’re not embarrassed at all to be together. We’ll watch TV. It’s good to maintain your erectile function into your 90s.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, I just had a visual there, my wife and I doing this.
Susan Bratton:
I know; isn’t it so funny.
Dr. Pompa:
Anyways, so hence the laughter, okay.
Susan Bratton:
This is a constriction ring. If you have severe erectile dysfunction, you can pull the blood in with your pump and then you can trap the blood in with this ring. It doesn’t crush the corpus cavernosum. This is called a Giddy, G-I-D-D-Y, getmegiddy.com.
This is the little rubber band that’s adjustable. That holds all the blood in the penis for a half hour. You can make love. Then you can let it off and the blood will run back out.
The penis pump is good for intractable erectile dysfunction as well as for simple reversal of early-onset ED. Any man who’s taking Viagra to achieve and maintain an erection could get rid of the pharmaceutical by taking a nitric oxide supplement and using a penis pump for 13 weeks. It’s the difference between letting your body—supporting your body and growing new tissue and healing versus just covering up the systemic issue of atherosclerosis with a pill.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, right. Yeah, no, these are real solutions. These are big problems that people really have no answer to.
Susan Bratton:
Everybody has them.
Dr. Pompa:
There’s a new device called a TRT, a tissue regenerative therapy that actually that they were using. They use it to basically wounds that won’t heal for diabetics. They use it for actually shoulders, knees, pains in the body, necks. They’re using it now—some of the top in the world are using this device like the GAINSWave for these dysfunctions that we’re discussing.
TRT, did I do a show? I think I did a show on that. We talked about it, so Ashley can add that show as well. Wow, okay—
Susan Bratton:
I’ve got a couple of other quick ones to show you if you’re still good with show and tell?
Dr. Pompa:
Let’s do it. Yeah, let’s do it.
Susan Bratton:
Okay, the other piece of it is that—I really want to just quickly take a quick pit stop into the prostate. It’s very important. You don’t want to become or have your husband become a guy that gets up five times at night to pee. He stands there; he’s got a tiny little stream. He can’t really get a full force pee going.
He can’t drive more than an hour because he’s afraid he’ll pee his pants. It can get bad. He’ll have prostate issues; he might have a prostatectomy. The most important thing that a man can do, just as I recommended to the woman to do internal stimulation of the vaginal tissue—my little penis pumps are making noise here.
Dr. Pompa:
Uh oh.
Susan Bratton:
A man can also stimulate internally the prostate, which is the male G-spot. It’s called the P-spot. There are battery-operated massagers so you can get a vibration along with the stimulation. There’s all different kinds of them. There’s remote controlled ones, etcetera.
As women, I think it’s important for us to encourage our men to self-care in these areas because I always feel like I’m Dr. mom. I think a lot of women do. A lot of men would be embarrassed or shy to put attention on their prostate, but prostate massage is the—besides diet and exercise, which are always our fundamentals here with Dr. Pompa, of course, is just take the embarrassment out of it and put the encouragement for sexual self-care into your household because nobody knows what you do at home. You’re going to live long and happy and have a fabulous intimate life with really good health with the simplest of $20 tools.
Once you do it three times, you start doing it in front of each other, it’s no big thing. You’re just taking care of business. There are a lot of things that can be done.
Dr. Pompa:
Literally.
Susan Bratton:
Exactly; now, there’s two more things I want to show you in the masculine sphere that I think are quite interesting. These are pleasure toys that help for men who are having erectile dysfunction issues. This particular one is by Hot Octopuss. This is called the Solo, I think it’s called. Their names I never remember, but you can go to Hot Octopuss with two s’s.com.
There’s a plate inside here that the penis rests in. It doesn’t have to be fully erect. It pleasures the frenulum, which is essentially the male clitoral area if you will at the end of his penis. That’s pleasure for him, but he can wear it this way. This part also vibrates. You can have a missionary style kissing intimate experience even if he isn’t able to completely penetrate where she’s getting this vibrator and he’s getting this floating plate of pleasure. She’s got a little controller that she can operate this pleasure dome right here.
Dr. Pompa:
That can be good or bad, I don’t know.
Susan Bratton:
You can have the closeness that you want without being fully functional. This is another very interesting product. There’s a vibrator here; there’s a vibrator here. This traps the blood in. His penis comes out here. This is for her and this is perineal stimulation, P-spot, for him.
One of the things—I do a lot of primary market research because I have a very large following who love to take my surveys and I love to ask them questions. I recently did a survey. I sent it out once and I got over 3,000 responses from couples and singles, about half couples, half singles, about slightly more men than women, but not much, pretty equal.
I said, what are the things you’re the worst at in the bedroom from this list. In the top three for both men and women was—and by the way, I offered gender-neutral options in my surveys as well. There aren’t that many takers of that, but I do believe that everything should be supported across the gender spectrum. Both the males and the females said, I really stink at using sex toys during lovemaking. I thought, there’s so many good toys out there. It’s really just about getting over your embarrassment, knowing which toys to choose, finding ones that are right for you, doing experimentation.
One of the things that fixes the monotony of monogamous intimacy is doing new things together. In the 21st Century, the year 2020, where we are right now with companies like Hot Octopuss, Fun Factory, and—where’s my—this one is by Mystery Vibe. This is a Tenuto, T-E-N-U-T-O, by Mystery Vibe, this one.
With the world having these products, why not try them? Have some fun; laugh a little; get good at things; feel some new feels. There’s just a lot of really great things that you can do to have more fun in the bedroom. When you start with a low libido, having that little extra help from a nice pleasure toy ain’t the worst thing in the world.
Dr. Pompa:
Hey, that’s right. Like you said, hey, it may not be your hormones. It may be—
Susan Bratton:
Boredom.
Dr. Pompa:
No, but again, you brought so many things from blood flow, just I don’t want to call it normal aging because to me it’s abnormal aging, but yet, common with aging, probably a better way to put it, which happens. You had answers. A lot of these things are answers, even in the actual active intercourse, they’re part of the answer. Interesting stuff, unique answers.
I told you this show would be full of things you may have heard of, but plenty that you have not. You never cease to amaze me. You always pull these new things. I’m like, well, gosh, I feel like such a child. I don’t know these things. Thank God I have you as our sexpert that comes on and educates us.
Honestly, obviously, this show would benefit anybody, but my followers are really people, health seekers that are really—but this is a big deal. You have to enter into this with your partner, your spouse starting with conversation. Would you agree?
Because I know what people are thinking. I always try to think like my viewers. Oh my gosh, I would love to do this with my wife or I would love to do this with my husband, but they’re afraid to breach the conversation. Do you have suggestions for them?
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, one thing I sent an email to my followers and I said—because I have a newsletter. I sent out an email. I said tell me the reason. What’s the obstacle that’s preventing you from having the intimacy that you crave.
All answers are accepted except I don’t have a partner. This is not about dating; this is not about partners. This is for people who have a partner or who don’t have a partner, but it’s not the fact that they don’t have a partner that’s the issue.
As hundreds of responses came in, I thought, I can fix that. Then I thought, I can’t help every single person individually. What can I do?
I put together a process of conversation that I call the magic pill method. Because I thought to myself, if I could give everybody a magic pill to fix their problem, what would it be? It would be this communication strategy, which is, and it’s at magicpillmethod.com. I can’t go into all the details here, but you can print it out at home, discuss it with your partner. Try this technique together.
Essentially what it does is it has you make a list of all the things that you use to do that you don’t do anymore that you like and you missed. Then you make another list that is all the things that you could possibly still do that are in the intimate connection category. Then you eat a really good meal. You have lots of hydration. You sit on that couch together and you hold hands. You discuss your list of what you used to do that you miss and your partner has their list.
Then you talk about the things you could do and the things they could do. Then you talk about what is holding you back physically or emotionally from doing those things that you both like on each other’s lists. Then you decide what are you going to do to fix that thing.
If it’s lack of erectile dysfunction, go get a GAINSWave treatment. If you have pain with intercourse, get a vFit. Now that you are aware—once you pinpoint what the actual issue is instead—because what happens with couples is they hit a wall. They don’t talk about it. Their sex life goes away over something solvable. They just didn’t know what the solution was because they didn’t really know what the problem was. Often, the problem seems like this big general thing when it’s not; it’s actually one little thing with a solution.
What that does is that says we’re going to compromise because we maybe can’t do what we used to do, but we sure have some fun things that we can still do together. Then you’re back to connection, hand-holding, intimacy, feeling good, generating oxytocin, and all those things that everybody wants and deserves. That’s my solution for how do you talk about what you want is the magic pill method that diffuses the blame game and the shame game.
Dr. Pompa:
Probably the easy way to get there is share the show with them, make them watch the show with you. That breaks the conversation and breaks you right into that answer. That’s great advice there. Where can people find out more? What do you want to—where do you want to lead our viewers?
Susan Bratton:
I think what I want to do is we didn’t get much time to talk about the supplements. I think I would just like to briefly tell you about that.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, you can, go ahead. Talk a few minutes. You mentioned it a little bit. I didn’t know you had other little things there to show. Go ahead and show those.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, what I want to do is I researched libido for a number of years. I researched every botanical and every piece of peer-reviewed medical science, clinical data, as well as all of the ancestral wisdom around botanicals for libido. What I realized is that there are about—there’s five plant products botanicals that help you feel more desire, more libido, more sexual health.
Often, they operate on supportive hormones, blood flow, but they also have some elusive components to them. What I found is that for—our ancestors over the eons always wanted to feel more desire. It’s not a modern-day thing due to our stress over social medial, and the political climate, the pandemic, and the race riots, and all the crazy stuff that’s happening now. It’s actually that we’ve always craved feeling more desired. We have because it is what I started out this conversation saying, which is, it’s the fuel of our creativity. It’s our passion for life, our lust for life. The more you feel turned on, you’re turned on for life.
There’s five libido botanicals. The first one is maca. Eat some sugar-free chocolate every day and you will have your maca, your cacao. I’m sorry, your cacao; chocolate is your cacao.
The second is maca, which is a Peruvian root vegetable that is very good for feeling that zest. It’s a zesty botanical. Maca is great.
Now, both of them, you need about a gram to three grams of, a fair amount of material. It’s not the kind of thing you’d want to put into a capsule and take a supplement. You want to put maca in your smoothie. You want to have a nice piece of dark chocolate, a square of dark chocolate every day, and you’re good to go.
The other three that are good for supplementation are fenugreek, which comes from the Ayurvedic world, tongkat ali or long jack, which comes from the Southeast Asian traditional Chinese medicine world. Then the third is Tribulus Terrestris, which is your Mediterranean botanical.
They offer very similar properties. They work for male and female-bodied people, but I don’t recommend stacking them. This is where stacks can be overwhelming, especially if you’re in delicate health. That’s why you only want 300 milligrams of one of the three.
What I did was—and here’s the thing. I said, okay, I could make this tongkat ali 300-milligram supplement, and make sure it’s got the components, and it’s the right extracts, and it’s good product, and it’s organic, and all those things, but most people aren’t even taking their daily vitamins. Now, on your show, they might be, but the average bear is probably not even getting enough borane to decouple his testosterone from the protein. He’s probably not getting enough vitamin D to produce the hormone.
Dr. Pompa:
Magnesium is a player as well.
Susan Bratton:
Magnesium, the selenium. You need to have your basic fundamental micronutrient and minerals for all of the production of things that your body needs to give you a libido. What I did was I made a multivitamin, multimineral with a beautiful mineral profile that’s all methylated Bs, methylcobalamin, 5MDHF for your B9, etcetera, and TMG, the butane in it so that your body doesn’t even have to work any effort at all to methylate the vitamins. They just get bioavailability absorbed it.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, that’s better.
Susan Bratton:
I made a vitamin mineral. One of them has the Tribulus, one has the fenugreek, and one has the long jack.
Dr. Pompa:
Oh, yeah, that’s brilliant.
Susan Bratton:
That’s what I came up with. You herb cycle. It’s always the same vitamin and minerals because you need that every day, but then you go from Boost to Drive to Desire or whichever one you want to do.
Dr. Pompa:
By the way, cycling herbs actually works better. It’s a principle that I teach because the body adapts. You break that adaptation with a new cycle. That’s brilliant, Susan, absolutely brilliant.
Susan Bratton:
Thank you. Then here’s where the stack comes in. These you don’t stack. You don’t want to take three times the vitamins you need every day; you want to cycle through the botanicals and always get your vitamin minerals.
This is where the stack comes in. This is Flow. When I looked at what really makes you feel good, for men, it’s having a firm erection makes them turned on. For women, it’s feeling some arousal and vaginal lubrication. That’s a signal to us that even though how lubricated we are has no connection to how turned on we are, we women like to feel lubricated to feel our desire.
When we age, by the time we’re 50, we have half the nitric oxide production ability that we did when we were 20. We literally can’t pump the blood around like we used to. A lot of people take a nitric oxide supplement to support their cardiovascular health to reduce neuroinflammation, to improve their hormone profile. There’s lots of reasons people take it. Pretty much the people who follow me take my brand because it gives you better hard-ons, and more vaginal lubrication, an increased orgasmic intensity because you’re getting the blood flow to your pelvis that’s gone missing as you age. It gives you all the other benefits of nitric oxide.
The thing is, I looked around in the market because I am happy—as you can see, I talk about a lot of brands. I don’t need to make everything, trust me. If somebody has a great product out there, I would much rather they do their thing and I just tell my friends about it, my followers about it. I looked for an organic nitric oxide product made for people in middle age who want more blood flow. Really, there’s only people who have heart conditions, or people who are young, people who are trying to bulk up their biceps in the marketplace.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, you’re right about that.
Susan Bratton:
They weren’t organic. I am an organic girl. I also realized that a lot of the blood flow supplements are made with arginine, which by the time you’re over 40, the arginine pathway in your body is dysfunctional.
Dr. Pompa:
Yes, citrulline is better.
Susan Bratton:
My product is made out of organic watermelon rinds. The citrulline comes from organic watermelon rinds. Then I put nitrates in it because that’s a separate pathway that your body can use from organic spinach. The vitamin C is from organic acerola cherries, the bitter cherries that helps actually absorb all of the watermelon and spinach. Then I put nack in it and acetylcysteine, which is like a PDE5 inhibitor. It slows the combustion down, so you get better blood flow longer from the nitric oxide supplement.
Dr. Pompa:
Awesome.
Susan Bratton:
Women tell me, I am moist. I have taken this for like ten days and I’m moist for the first time in ten years. This is amazing. Men say, I don’t have to take—some men still have to take their PDE5 inhibitors, the Viagra, Levitra, Cialis because they just don’t—they still can’t produce enough of their own or they’ve got atherosclerosis or what have you.
A lot of the younger guys who are taking Viagra, they don’t even need to take that. They can just take a nitric oxide or get a nitric oxide supplement and they get all the blood flow they need. It either helps with your PDE5 or it helps you get rid of having to take a PDE5 inhibitor. It helps all the other functions, too.
If I was going to say anything for anybody, what’s the Number One supplement you should take to improve your libido, I would say, take a nitric oxide supplement, mine or somebody else’s. I like organic. Then look at libido botanicals after that because really the blood flow’s more important than anything.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, no, I agree. Do we have a link for those? Do we have affiliated content? They can order them directly through you if we put the links up?
Susan Bratton:
Most definitely.
Dr. Pompa:
All right, cool. That’s what we do because I know people are going, okay, I want that, including, hey, I want to try them myself.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, I’ll send them to you. I send them to you and Merily, no problem at all.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, absolutely.
Susan Bratton:
You don’t have to ask.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, I’m a believer in those products you mentioned, actually, all of them, and the way you’re doing them passes the mustard for me. Yeah, thank you for that. We’ll put the links right here to make it easy on you watching the show. We mentioned a lot, so we’re going to put all those links here. Ashley is going to be very busy putting the links.
Susan, thank you so much. I’m tell you, a wealth of knowledge in this area. That’s why you’re our sex experts that we bring on the show because you just—you always have amazing answers.
I knew you would for the subject of libido. A complicated topic, but I think you hit it at every possible angle of causation. I think you really have. I know that people are going to share this show because there was that many goodies in there. The first person you better share it with is your partner, so Step One.
Thank you again. I’m sure we’re going to have you on in the future.
Susan Bratton:
I’d love to.
Dr. Pompa:
You have so much to offer on so many topics. Thank you again.
Susan Bratton:
Yeah, thank you so much, Dr. Pompa. Thank you as a health seeker who is also standing for your sexuality. It means a lot to me that you’re still watching or listening to Dr. Dan and I talk about this. I wish you much love, much connection, and much health sex-cess.
Dr. Pompa:
Yeah, well, there you have it. Thank you, Susan, appreciate you. Thank you so much.
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